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Change is inevitable; in fact change is the only constant thing in life. There is a whole Eastern philosophy based around this very simple yet mind boggling fact. Some people can not come to terms with this fact, others can and have. I would like to think that I have. However, my observation is that in some cases change is not an option. 99.9% of the time it’s by choice that some things, and in some cases, some people do not change.
I’ve found in my life that there are people whom I refer to in my head as “constants”. They are the ones who are either predictable in their actions or they are also always there. I take comfort in some of these people. In others I am either ashamed of them or extremely annoyed.
One thing I’ve never understood though is someone, anyone, for that matter who has the power to make a change regarding either the person(s) in their lives or something that is resident in their life that they don’t want there. Or at least they speak of not wanting it yet their actions prove differently. I honestly believe that the world would be a much better place if people would quit worrying so god damned much about how their personal wants and needs affect others. Of course I must include the obligatory note about “Don’t do something if it will physically harm another person.” But I’m talking about the other stuff, the non-violent stuff.
If someone is displeased with a situation then why do they continue down that path? I’m sure there are a million and one excuses for any person this question is put to. And trust me I’ve heard my fair share. However, I must say in all actuality it doesn’t matter what one says in their own defense. If they are choosing not to make the change then it is no fault but their own. Actions do truly speak a million times louder than words ever will.
I’m aware that I’m a judgmental person and a bit harsh at times. Then again I’ve never claimed to be a lady so there’s not a single protest to anyone who calls me a bitch. I am, it’s real. But I just get fed up sitting around being subject to people’s problems when they know full well they can make things better for themselves if they would only put their fuckin’ boots on and try.
I must apologize, I realize this isn’t the usual “Buggie Goodness” that most of you expect when you visit here. Some days just really need to put my actual thoughts of “substance” out there because I really start to wish I wasn’t so god damned observant. Most times I’d really like to be the shallow nit-wit I so often seem to be. I have no closing for this one…no comic relief to lighten the mood back up so this’ll just have to do. G’night.
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Amadeus said:
on December 2, 2005 at 8:38 am
Although it goes against my grain to post a non humorous comment on someone’s blog, I’ll have to say I agree with you. Everyone, for the most part, has faced some adversity…you either work through it, or submit to it. I work through it, and have relatively little time for those who choose to mire themselves in problems…those who choose to stay, as it were.
Of course, there are situations from which there is no escape, but they are relatively few in grand scope.
Jewelz said:
on December 3, 2005 at 12:06 pm
A FREAKIN MEN BUGGERS COULDN’T HAVE SAID IT BETTER MYSELF.
My own daughter included. UGH
Tara V. said:
on December 4, 2005 at 9:29 pm
why can’t everyone be smart like you?
Jade said:
on December 5, 2005 at 8:35 am
I wish I could get both of my parents to see the light too! Jeeze, you’re so right and I’ve stated these exact thoughts I don’t know how many times. Amen girl!
Melissa said:
on December 8, 2005 at 12:16 pm
Good grief woman, you’re talking about me here. I’m sitting here reading this, and going. Uh huh, this is my life. I know I need to change it, it just plain sux. I did blog recently about this in fact, blaming myself, cause in reality it is! I can’t blame anyone but myself *takes bite of sesame chicken wrap*
Yep *nods* I’ve got to put muh plan in motion.
hugs
RisibleGirl said:
on December 14, 2005 at 8:40 am
I couldn’t agree with you more. I recently posted about the fact that I’m a people watcher and I tend to find myself figuring out the kinds of lessons people seem to be in need of.
I may seem flighty to some because I’m SO QUICK to get myself out of situations that do not agree with me. I’d rather be that way than the way I was years ago- struggling with a situation but not having the balls to get out of it.